To love without limits regardless the circumstances.
To love when they cannot remember.
To love when they, regardless the neverending caring and devotion given cannot even appreciate it.
To love regardless the insults.
To love even if all you do with the biggest compassion is taken and misconceived in every instance.
To love such as to sleep badly in a sofa for years so your parent is not alone at night, yet they say you are never with them.
To love them unconditionally as you hear them complaint badly to your children saying the most awful things about you, that both, them and you know are not true, yet the person twists and turns their distorted perception of reality as they ramble on with their painful words.
To hold their hand for hours when they say stay with me. Ask for ice cream, you drive two miles to get it, give it lovingly, bring them breakfast everyday before heading off to work. Yet they do not remember and say you do not care.
When regardless where you are they call you incessantly 5, 7, 10 times and they say I never called you. You always ignore me, regardless the times you run to them.
For the days, weeks, turned into years of true unsurpassed attention, caring, long hospital stays, loosing financial stability, and one's best years. Yet, you give your absolute best and do not regret a minute of it.
That is, only a small insight my dears, of caring devotedly for an elder parent with dementia.
Just love and understand that one day, as free spirits, they will realize, see the real love in all your actions and see the truth.
True love heals all and great devotion is an endless gift that eternity pays back in due time with great peace and satisfaction of a job well done.
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Namaste!
Rev Barby Soliman